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How I Turned Fear into Love and Gratitude

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According to the book, A Course in Miracles, there are two basic emotions:  Love and Fear.  Just as light and darkness are opposites and cannot exist simultaneously, love and fear work the same way.  When you shine a light into a room, the darkness is removed.  Similarly, when you focus your thoughts on gratitude and love, worry and fears dissolve.  I recently had the opportunity to practice turning my fear into love and gratitude.  When I chose to do so, my worries vanished and I was overcome with peace.

My daughter broke her arm a few weeks ago and had to have a procedure done with anesthesia for the first time.  As a little bit of background, this same daughter became very sick due to a reaction to a vaccine when she was 20 months old.  Since then, I have been fearful of vaccines, medicines, and putting anything unnatural into our bodies unless it is absolutely necessary.  Needless to say, I had a very difficult time dealing with her having anesthesia, and it caused me much anxiety and worry.

As I sat in the waiting room while she was having the procedure done to fix her arm, the fears came rushing to me.  I kept thinking, “What if she doesn’t wake up?”  Finally, after worrying myself for several minutes, I decided to pick up the book I was reading at the time, There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem by Wayne Dyer.  I was hoping that would help me to take my mind off of my worries.  I read for a few minutes, and then I decided to put the book down and practice something Wayne Dyer had talked about earlier in the book.  I made the decision to stop worrying and to turn my fears into love.

In that moment, I closed my eyes and sent love to everyone in the operating room with my daughter, and I gave thanks for all of them.  I envisioned the room filled with a white light, and I sent love and positive thoughts to everyone involved.  Then, I gave thanks for the one thing that was causing me the most anxiety — the anesthesia.  I thanked it for helping this to be a positive experience for my daughter, and I tried to focus on all the good things about the anesthesia.  Because of it, she would have no pain during the procedure.  She would also have no memory of it, so it would not be a traumatic experience for her, and it would not cause her to develop new fears that she would have to live with for the rest of her life.  When she woke up, her arm would be back together in a cast and on its way to healing properly.  There were plenty of good things that anesthesia accomplished, and there was plenty to be grateful for.  Choosing to focus on these things and turn my fearful thoughts into those of love and gratitude helped me to calm down immediately.

Within moments, the doctor emerged and he let me know that everything had gone smoothly and my daughter had done great.  I was taken to the recovery room to wait for her to wake up.  When she opened her eyes, I was right there by her side.  The first words that came out of her mouth were, “I’m bored!”  Right then, I could tell that she was her usual self, and it gave me a great sense of relief.  For the rest of the time we were there, everyone was fantastic with her.  The nurses were all so attentive, and I could feel the love that I had sent out being returned to us.  My daughter is now healing wonderfully in her cast and has not experienced one bit of pain since the procedure.

I am so grateful I decided to take the opportunity to practice turning my fear of the anesthesia into love and gratitude.  It changed everything.  I saved myself many moments of unnecessary worry when I took the opportunity to look for the good in the anesthesia and give thanks for it.  This story is just another reminder that every experience and everything in life can be a gift if you look for the good and focus on that!

This practice can be done in any situation.

Thank you for taking the time to read my story.  Have you ever practiced turning your fears into love?  If so, I would love if you would share your story in the comments below!

Overcoming Anxiety Through EFT Tapping

“Energy medicine is the future of all medicine.” ~ Dr. Oz

As I mentioned in a post a few weeks ago, my 11-year-old daughter hasn’t been feeling well for about 2 months, and it has been causing her a great deal of anxiety.  While we are still working with the doctors to figure out the cause of her symptoms, we have found a way to calm her anxiety.  I thought I would share how EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) has helped us.

One night about 2 weeks ago, my daughter woke up at 4:30 am in a panic.  She said her throat felt blocked.  She could barely swallow water, and she was terrified!  I was scared, too, but since she could talk and breathe just fine, I knew the biggest problem was her anxiety.  I recalled the nights of her waking up with croup as a baby.  I remembered the cold night air always seemed to help, so I opened the door and had her breathe in the cold air.  It didn’t help.  I told her to sit on the couch and try to relax.  We took some deep breaths together.  Although this swallowing issue was brand new, she had been waking up each night not feeling well for several weeks, and I had no idea what to do.  I silently prayed to God to guide me because I was at a loss. . .and then the idea came to me to try EFT tapping with her.  I began teaching her how to tap.  She was hesitant at first and she thought it was a crazy idea and she felt silly doing it, but eventually she followed along with me and soon enough we were both talking and laughing together.  I taught her a breathing technique I had just learned the day before while listening to one of  Tony Robbins’ CD’s (breathe in 4 times through your nose, then exhale 4 times through your mouth.)  She got a kick out of that! 🙂  We continued to tap and she relaxed enough that she was able to fall back asleep on the couch.  She woke up a few hours later and her throat was much better.  She was able to eat breakfast and then went off to school.

That night, as bedtime approached, she got more and more anxious.  I went to TheTappingSolution.com and downloaded the Tapping for Stress Relief CD (it is free!)  My daughter and I followed along as Jessica Ortner guided us in the 7-minute long Evening Clearing Tapping and then the 8 minute Evening Affirmation tapping.  As soon as the second one was over, my daughter was asleep!  And she didn’t wake up once that night complaining of not feeling well.  She slept through the night for the first time in weeks, and it was great!  Since then, the Evening Clearing Tapping and the Evening Affirmation Tapping have become a nightly habit for my daughter.  She has been sleeping so much better thanks to the tapping (when she does both of them…if she doesn’t do the Evening Affirmation Tapping, she usually wakes up).  It really works!

What is EFT Tapping?

Tapping is a combination of ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology.  You use your fingertips to “tap” on specific points on your body while you think about your specific problem and voice positive affirmations.  It helps you get to the root cause of your issues and remove the emotional barriers that are negatively affecting your life.  Tapping has deep healing capabilities, and for those who have doubts about its effectiveness, it is even backed by science and research studies.

I first discovered tapping in February 2013.  Somehow I was led to the World Tapping Summit 2013, and I signed up for it and immersed myself in it for 10 days.  I listened to every presentation and learned how tapping could help in every area of my life.  I was impressed that some of my greatest mentors like Cheryl Richardson and Wayne Dyer were promoting this, so I decided to learn all I could about it.  Like my daughter, I thought it was weird at first and I felt silly doing it in front of the computer, but I became more comfortable over time.  Once the tapping summit was over, I didn’t use it at all because I really didn’t feel like I had a need for it at the time.  To be honest, I felt like I had wasted my time learning it.  When the World Tapping Summit aired this year, I decided not to sign up because I felt like I still had no use for it and I doubted whether it really worked.  Since my time is very precious to me, I didn’t want to “waste” my time on that again.  Little did I know that a few weeks later, it would greatly help my daughter with her anxiety issues and help both of us to regain our sleep at night.  Now I look back on those 10 days I spent in February last year and I can see what a huge gift that was, and I am so grateful I took the time to learn it.  Everything happens for a reason, right? 🙂

Tapping is an amazing tool!  I highly recommend that everyone learn how to do it.  You never know when you will need it or when you can pass on the knowledge to help someone else.  It is so quick and easy to learn, and once you learn it you will have that tool and knowledge for the rest of your life.   I love the fact that anyone can do it, anyone can learn it, and you don’t need any fancy equipment.  The power of your mind is an amazing thing!

Learn to Tap!

TheTappingSolution.com – this website has everything you ever wanted to know about tapping!  It will teach you what tapping is, why it works, how to tap, and so much more!  I highly recommend checking it out for yourself and giving yourself the gift of the knowledge of this amazing tool! 🙂

Peace & Blessings! 🙂